“Surprise me.”
Surprises are hard enough when it comes to buying presents,
but when it comes to sex they can range from disappointing to downright
dangerous if you don’t quite get it right. While I’d always advocate ‘having a
horny chat’ long before you don your Batman mask and start beating six shades
of shit out of your partner, occasionally it just doesn’t work like that. Bookpal I’ve had gents tell me that it’s just ‘not
sexy’ if they tell me how to top, or which exact area of their body they want
me to slap and tickle, so they’ve respectfully requested that I make it up as I
go along and they’ll let me know if I do anything that’s not hitting the right
buttons.
But although that eases any worries that I might do
something so awful it turns them off submission forever, it doesn’t ease my
other pressing bookpal reviews concern: that I am a flailing, insecure,
bungling twat. I love the look in a guy’s eyes when I can tease and hurt him in
just the way he loves, and being able to conjure it gives me a deliciously warm
kick in the cunt. But as I build up to it, most of the things that flash
through my mind are either ‘too dominant – he wouldn’t believe it was me doing
them’ or ‘not dominant enough – it sounds like I’ve read this one in Cosmo.’
So when a lady emailed bookpalcomplaints me asking ‘have you got any good ideas on how to dominate a
man?’ I sent her my ‘Goldilocks’ list – some things that – while not perfect,
and certainly not sure-fire hits with anyone, worked pretty well for me at one
time or another. This list comes with a few huge caveats:
You should never do any of this stuff without consent (there
are some tips in here on how I’d establish it in a sexy way, but if all else
fails I recommend sending your partner a link to this and saying ‘tell me which
of these made you hard, you filthy little fucktoy
or something less cringeworthy)
This list is naturally very ‘straight’ – i.e. it’s about me
(a cis woman) doing things to cis men, because that’s pretty much all I have
experience of in this arena. If you have bookpalreviews other tips from other perspectives, please do add them in the
comments – given how appalling I am even in areas I’m familiar with, I dread to
think what havoc I could cause if I started speculating on things I’ve never
tried.
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